The Loop Guide to Clubbing, Drinking, plus West Essex and East London living.

It has been noted, by at least three of you, (namely Trisha, Nina and Mercedes) that I haven’t written an Essex and the City for ages and you have asked me why. Now that’s just the three people that have noticed that I am aware of, know doubt there are countless others that are ‘up in arms’ over the fact they haven’t had anything sensible and insightful to read whilst passing the time at work. Ok so maybe not, but still I thought I would write a new one, just in time for summer! My lack of absence does have a reason other than laziness or losing motivation, it’s down to the fact that I’ve actually been writing something else and it’s using up most of my creative energy, (and sanity for that matter). Basically the ‘thing’ I am writing is taking ages to finish and to make matters worse the ‘I’ button has come off on my laptop and it’s become so aggravating, last night I contemplated filling in the ‘I’s at the end or sticking the button back on with chewing gum but luckily I found some selleotape, so my laptop is now the equivalent of Jack Duckworth’s glasses. More worrying than the inconvenience of the whole this is how much I must have used that ‘I’ for it to fall off? If that’s not a sign that I talk far too much about myself then I don’t know what is. The Y the O and the U are all fine and the W and E look like they’ve never been used but the ‘I’ button looks as old as Jack Duckworth! Anyway so compiling the ‘thing’ has been taking up a lot of time, don’t get me wrong it’s not a massive secret or anything, god if it was a secret it would be on my Facebook status by now, I just don’t want to start talking about it and tempting fate (and no I am not writing my will that would take all of 30 seconds and I don’t think anyone would be too grateful if I left them naughty Ollie). Anyway being busy writing hasn’t left much room for socialising, which has done my liver the world of good and I’ve kept a clear head which has made me look and feel differently about the world but all in a very positive way. Although I haven’t been out partying a lot lately, I have been with friends, BBQ’s and dinners and the other weekend I went away for my friends 30th and when I say I laughed from the moment I got there to the moment I left that would be an understatement at one point I even woke up laughing. It was fantastic my friend hired a massive mansion in Kent and some doughnut let us party in it for 3 days unsupervised, the only room that wasn’t covered in beer cans was the library (for obvious reasons). It was a weekend I will never forget and you know when you get those moments in life where you think, things can’t get better than this, there was a lot of them and to think I wasn’t even going to go. It’s funny isn’t it, things that are sometimes unplanned or just a casual arrangement end up being brilliant because you’re not expecting anything from it and taking it as it comes. I think that can be put into practice in most situations in life, I know I bang on about it but as long as you stop and take it all in consciously there are so many of those moments and I think fate plays a massive part in being happy. It’s probably one of the only things you can actually rely on because you’ve got no control over it. It’s a bit like when you think you might be made redundant, at first you panic and worry but then once you’ve come to terms with it you come to the conclusion ‘well it’s out of my hands now so what’s the point in wasting time worrying about it’. Of course it’s easy to be blasé about things like that when you haven’t got any major responsibilities but if you trust in fate it does take a bit of the pressure off, even if you try and do it a little bit. I also think fear stops us being as laid back as we could, but fear is just a made up thing in your head, if you’re going to fear being afraid you might as well trust fate because either way you’re not going to know the answers it’s all assumptions and if that’s the case you may as well choose the positive way because worrying and stressing make’s life shit. Does that make sense, it does in my head but then that doesn’t say much ha ha. So being around my friends, plus Soph’s 30th, Ellie’s Birthday, countless BBQ’s plus the return on my girls night Cosmopolitan at 195 and the writing of my ‘thing’ is about all the news I have to tell you, its not extremely exciting or enlightening but it’s just a little reminder to let you know I am still here and that I will be back but in a different way.

P.S. Happy Birthday Sophie and Ellie two of the best Wenchies anyone could ever have.

P.P.S Happy Birthday Danielle, you are my little angel and I love you dearly.

P.P.P.P.P.S Congratulations Nina on beautiful baby Henry, he is amazing.

P.P.P.P.P.P.S Congratulations to Trisha and Ralph you’re an inspiration.

P.P.P.P.P.S Happy Birthday Lucie (it’s not actually her Birthday but I didn’t want her to feel left out ha ha)

P.P.P.P.P.P.S Cosmopolitan is back at 195 20th June! See you there!

God it sounds like an acceptance speech ha ha……..

See you soon!!